Matthew Gorner PGDip, Reg. BACP
In Dalston, London
Although it may seem easier and safer to stay within our comfort zone, sometimes problems arise that can feel insurmountable and we find ourselves suffering and in pain. This can be a call for us to reach within for undeveloped or repressed parts of ourselves so that we might find hidden strengths and untapped qualities within. Maintaining the status quo and not rising to the challenge may seem like an option but this can result in us feeling stuck and unsure of where to turn, sometimes to the point of despair, anxiety or depression until we choose to take action and do something about it. In this way, a bad situation can be an opportunity to embark on a journey of self-discovery towards healing and growth – AKA a crapportunity!
Do I need counselling?
In every story, the protagonist is helped along the way by various characters who can be called upon to provide impartial guidance, having walked the path before and who are therefore familiar with the territory. You may well have experienced more than your share of ups and downs on your life journey and living in London and enjoying yourself can take its toll physically and emotionally, sometimes we end up feeling lost and finding our path can seem like an impossible task. You may already have some connections you can rely on or perhaps you could do with some additional help. This is where a counsellor with life experience and the right training can prove to be a useful ally.
What I Offer
The reasons that some people seek out a counsellor are as varied and different
as people themselves.
My approach is client centered and eclectic, drawing on a number of modalities and traditions in response to each person as an individual soul with a unique life and specific needs which, I believe, deserve a tailored response. I will not try and fit you into a certain way of being or impose some psychological theory on you. We would, however, be free to explore different ways of thinking about or approaching your concerns that you might find helpful.
My specific area of interest is relationships, both with other people in our lives and also with ourselves. People I work with are often aware of an internal, critical part of themselves and be inclined to “beat themselves up”, even over the small stuff. Self-esteem is one of my key areas of focus, working on negative feelings such as emptiness, worthlessness, wrongness, lack of motivation and procrastination. I’m also interested in issues around gender, sexuality and contemporary ideas of masculinity and femininity.
Naturally, as a counsellor, I’m interested in consciousness and self-awareness, including altered states of consciousness. Clients often find it fruitful to work with their dreams, symbolism, drawing, active imagination, journaling, the chakras or meditation, and we could try one or more of these if they resonate with you.
If you are ready to release yourself from patterns that no longer serve you and improve the relationships you have with other people and with yourself, then counselling and therapy can help guide you on your journey to becoming more fully your true self.
If you feel like we could be a fit for each other or would like to discuss working together more fully, I can be available for an initial consultation or to answer your questions by email or phone.